The Belief Behind Your Child’s Behavior

Here is the next tidbit of very basic child psychology. From the time they are born, children are making decisions that form their personality, their goals (sometimes hidden) in life and how they “react” to perceived insecurity and stress. They are making decisions about: Who they are (good or bad; capable or incapable) What the […]

4 Basic Needs of Your Children Part 2

Last week, I shared with you the four basic needs of your children. Do you remember them? Here’s a quick refresher. They are: sense of belonging and significance, perceptions of capability, personal power and autonomy and social and life skills. For our discussion, we focused on the first – the need for a sense of […]

What is Our Job as Parents?

Lani R Hill, co-founder of the nascent Children’s Movement [listen to our 2015 Happy Home Project Telesummit interview below] proposes that parents and teachers see themselves more as “soul guides.” Soul in this sense means simply the essence of that child’s being. What are his or her core traits and characteristics? And how can we […]

I Can’t Complain! So I’ll Just Say…

Just Saturday we returned from over 2 weeks in Nicaragua visiting our friends, Deb and John, who are there with the U.S. Peace Corps. Nicaragua is Central America’s poorest country. I am an American living in Switzerland, two of the world’s richest countries. And you know what most struck me in the tropical heat and […]


A key aspect to understanding discouragement vs. encouragement is in understanding how children potentially understand what is happening. We like to say that children are amazingly keen observers but terrible interpreters of what they observe. Why? Simply because they do not have the life experience yet to provide a context for understanding all that they […]

4 Tips to a Positive Relationship with Your Child’s Teacher

As a teacher, a school director (of many years), a mom and a parenting coach, I’ve looked at this one from many angles. It can be difficult to get on the same page with your child’s teacher. However, it can be done. It requires a change in your mindset. You must regard your relationship with […]