Making Your Child Feel Important

7 Ways to show your child s/he belongs and is important to the family (and counting…) Children love feeling significant in real ways, so give them chores with responsibility that carries consequences for the family. A 3-year-old can set the cutlery. A 13-year-old can...

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Name that feeling

Only half jokingly I have often said that this one skill could change our world. I find that Elaine Mazlish and Adele Faber explain and illustrate it best in their book How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk. Even as an experienced clinical...

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Gratitude is Everywhere

Do I need to feel gratitude first and then express it or the other way round? A few years ago New York Time columnist Arthur C. Brooks addressed the chicken or egg conundrum about gratitude and found studies which strongly suggest that we can cultivate gratitude. A...

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4 Basic Needs of Children, 2 Essential

(& 4 Misguided Ways Children Try to Get Those Needs Met) in 8 Parts When I recently concluded a parenting course and asked participants what they’d take with them on the journey, most of them referred to the teaching on the two fundamental needs of children, so I...

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What is our job as parents?

Lani R Hill, co-founder of the nascent Children’s Movement [link to interview on THHP?] proposes that parents and teachers see themselves more as “soul guides.” Soul in this sense means simply the essence of that child’s being. What are his or her core traits and...

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Parents & Teachers:

 Tips for Having a Positive Working Relationship with Your Child’s Teacher As a teacher and school director of many years, a mom and a parenting coach, I’ve looked at this one from many angles. Once again, if you can, regard your relationship with your child’s...

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School is Starting! Yay or Yuck!

For most children, starting school for the first time and even going back to school after the summer holidays is a big deal. We adults can recall or imagine starting a new job, a new training or any number of new situations. Many adults find new situations quite...

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Rather than say NO

Rather than say NO, which cuts something off, you can say YES and then find some way to do something.” Merce Cunningham I love considering this quote in the context of raising children, especially pre-schoolers. I invite all parents to simply observe themselves during...

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Got your parenting map handy – Part II

Even if you did not post your list of irritations and wishes for your children this last week, I will share with you how Steps I and II from last week’s post can create your parenting map. Eventually you will want to do Steps I and II for yourself so you can have your...

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